Jul 24, 2017

The Inspiration of the Circle

The Circle creates a wonderful bonding and joyous experience for everyone. It also helps alleviate anxiety and stress for people with dementia and their caregivers.



By Tom and Karen Brenner
Alzheimer's Reading Room

Will the circle be unbroken
By and by, Lord, by and by?
Is a better home awaiting
In the sky, Lord, in the sky?


Dementia Care Should A Caregiver be Truthful or Kind?

In Alzheimer's care is it more important to be truthful and cruel; or to be kind?


Alzheimer's caregivers don't want to lie but they must decided is it better to kind than truthful?
By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

I had an interesting and wonderful conversation with Susan Frederickson, the Caregiver Program Specialist, for the Area Agency on Aging of the Permian Basin (Midland, Texas).

Susan is full of knowledge and has a deep understanding of Alzheimer's caregiver life. We talked about a long list of issues that Alzheimer's caregivers deal with each day, and as a result I decided to write about "Lies".

About how difficult it can be when a person living with Alzheimer's asks a question that if answered "truthfully" are likely to cause sadness, confusion, or might be met with challenging behavior.


The Effect of Emotional Super Glue in Alzheimer's Care

They call out your name when they can't see you. If you go away for even a little bit they ask repeatedly where are you, when are you coming back?

The person living with Alzheimer's becomes psychologically and emotionally attached to the Alzheimer's caregiver.

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

The person living with Alzheimer's or a related dementia cannot live without you. Without you they become confused, worried, and experience an enormous amount of angst. You are their connection to the world. Without you they become lost.


The person living with dementia bonds to you. It is emotionally painful for a person living with dementia to be "without you". Persons living with dementia have an enormous amount of emotional super glue.

Are you willing to accept this?

Topic - Dementia Care

Jul 21, 2017

Alzheimer's Care - The Effect of Negative Feelings

There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.
― W. Clement Stone


Negative thoughts and feelings have a negative impact on the way we thing and care.

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

The typical person has between 12,000 and 70,000 thoughts each day

Along with these thoughts come feelings. You are what you think.

It reminds me of hamster running around the wheel -- going nowhere fast.