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Pure and simple, my mother loved ice cream.
When I fed my mother breakfast, lunch and dinner I always asked, how is it? How does it taste? Usually she says good or OK.
Several years ago, near the beginning of my caregiving effort, she called all her friends and told them that I was starving her to death. That I wasn't feeding her. They believed her. They called me and wanted to know -- why are you starving your mother?
Keep in mind, they knew her a lot better then they knew me.
Back then, my feelings were hurt. How could they believe such a thing -- that I was starving my mother.
I thought, are they blind?
Did she look like she was starving?
Back in those days I was a inexperienced caregiver. I actually said to them, why don't you come over her and look in the refrigerator and in the cabinets if you think I am starving her? Harsh.
In the beginning, I would get uptight when my mother said things that were clearly untrue. Even when she told people she was a healthy old broad and never took a pill (medicine) in her life. Every time she did this the listener believed her. Even now.
No wonder politicians can tell "big lies" and have a large fraction of the populace believe them.
My mother should run for President of the United States.
Which bring us back to ice cream. My mother loves ice cream.
Ice cream is the one food where I can ask my mother the question, how is it, and get the same answer every time -- delicious. Every time.
My mother gets her ice cream around 9 PM every evening.
She gets a happy look on her face. She seems very content. This happens even when she is in a bad mood before she gets her nightly ice cream.
I don't mind admitting that sometimes during the day when she is in one heck of a bad, ornery mood I think to myself -- maybe I should give her some ice cream.
There is only one thing I can count on as an Alzheimer's caregiver --
I feel happy too.
If everything went well I would get my mother into bed, watch her read her book for a bit, and then she would fall asleep happy.
Happy, that is my goal.
When you are an Alzheimer's caregiver you learn to take what you can get and enjoy it.
If you are having a recurring problem that happens around the same time of day, try ice cream.
I mean it. Try to substitute ice cream for the problem. It worked for me.
This is a rewrite of a previous article.
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Bob DeMarco is the Founder of the Alzheimer's Reading Room (ARR). Bob is a recognized expert, writer, speaker, and influencer in the Alzheimer's and Dementia Community worldwide. The ARR Knowledge Base contains more than 4,600 articles, and 349,000 links on the Internet. Bob lives in Delray Beach, FL.Original content +Bob DeMarco , the Alzheimer's Reading Room