Can things change? In the recent Dotty video she said, "I like myself". In the last seven years she never said that, not even once. She usually says, "I want to die". So I was startled to hear those words....By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room
Are you comfortable in your skin as an Alzheimer's caregiver?
If not why not?
Are some of the behaviors you are experiencing from your Alzheimer's patient disconcerting? Do they bother you? Are they making you feel "stressed out"?
At times, do you feel like you can no longer deal with the situation?
Do you think you can change the way things are? Or, did you already convince yourself this is the way things are, and this is the way things are going to remain?
For those of you that watched the most recent video with Dotty -- Dotty Live, Ice Cream Time (Video) -- you probably concluded that I am one lucky dog.
Dotty is a sweetie isn't she? I admit, she is a sweetie most of the time these days. However, Dotty wasn't always like this. When she was first diagnosed she was meaner than a junkyard dog. A junkyard bulldog. She had quite a bite. She had a tongue like a rattlesnake.
I somehow concluded through observation that I could change the way things were. My first observations happened after I decided to take Dotty into the gym for exercise. When we would be leaving for the gym she was as mean as mean could be. It hurt and it upset me. She would say the word NO over and over.
On the way out of the gym she would be smiling. Standing up straighter and frankly she was a different person.
This lead me to conclude that I could change many of her behaviors by substituting new and different activities and creating a pattern of "positivity" into our day. Doing more and more positive activities.
I learned early on that these new positive activities could replace the negative behaviors that were "tearing" me apart.
When you have the time, listen to the podcast below. If you can, take some notes. Sit down and think about what you heard.
Can things change? In the recent Dotty video she said, "I like myself". In the last seven years she never said that, not even once. She usually says, "I want to die". So I was startled to hear those words.
Seven years ago, Dotty would scream at me, "you are not putting me in a G .. dame home". Dotty now believes she lives in a safe secure environment. She no longer worries about being put in an "institution".
Listen, think, feel.
If you don't see the podcast go here.
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Bob DeMarco is the Founder of the Alzheimer's Reading Room and an Alzheimer's caregiver. Bob has written more than 2,011 articles with more than 200,000 links on the Internet. Bob resides in Delray Beach, FL.
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Original content Bob DeMarco, the Alzheimer's Reading Room