Aug 26, 2012

Alzheimer's Care Partner Hold Your Head Up

Alzheimer's caregiver your accomplishment is wonderful.

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

Alzheimer's Care Partner Hold Your Head Up
I often wonder if Alzheimer's caregivers sit down in a big comfortable chair, and think about their own accomplishment?

If not, why not?

I believe that Alzheimer's caregiving is a calling. A dare to unleash the spirit that lies within each one of us.

Did you ever ask yourself, what would the life of a person living with Alzheimer's or a related dementia be like without you?

In her article -- Confessions of an Alzheimer's Caregiver -- Carol Blackwell wrote about a waiter that made a snide remark when she ordered in a restaurant. She didn't like the comment.

I thought to myself -- isn't it wonderful that Carol and Bob are going out to restaurants. Would Bob be going out in the world without Carol? How would he be living his life?


I had a caregiver tell me he couldn't take his wife out because she eats with her hands. There is always a solution to a problem. In this case the obvious, eat finger foods like burgers, or chicken?

Another reader mentioned that people stare while they are in a restaurant. Does the opinion of someone you don't know and might never see again matter?

Does the opinion of an uninformed, ignorant person matter?

Let me give you my opinion. I don't need to know you to say this with confidence.

I admire and respect you.

At some point you have to get over the "hump". You need to focus on what it is you are accomplishing as an Alzheimer's caregiver. One thing for certain, you are living a life of accomplishment every day.

This matters. What YOU think and believe about your own accomplishment.

Me? I am proud of myself. If you want to know the truth it does not matter to me if anyone knows what I accomplished with Dotty each day. Don't get me wrong, I welcomed the praise and encouragement. I know what I did and that is good enough for me.

Time to listen. Take some deep breaths. Listen to the words. Think about the words.

Be patient. Listen all the way to the end. Let it sink in.



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