Mar 16, 2011

Alzheimer's Care, Self Concept

If not you, who then?
By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room


The other day I was talking to someone in the media on a topic unrelated to the Alzheimer's Reading Room. Near the end of the conversation I was asked, "what is one important thing you think you are accomplishing with the ARR"?

I responded:

Raising the self concept of Alzheimer's caregivers all over the world.

I was surprised by my own answer. I never said that before, and I never really thought about it before. The words just came out of me.

As usual, this started me thinking. Here is one conclusion I came too, I wish I had said:

We, the Collective Brain of the Alzheimer's Reading Room, are raising the self concept of Alzheimer's caregivers all over the world.

I am not under any illusion that I am doing this alone.

I am comfortable when I say this -- we are raising the spirit and self concept of Alzheimer's caregivers. I know this from the private emails I receive. I also know by observing the changes in the syntax and wording of both emails and comments that we receive.

There are a long list of Alzheimer's caregivers that came here feeling more or less lost and overwhelmed. I can understand this, I was there for a long period of time.

I also understand that caregivers often feel stressed, frustrated, and angry. Been there. You?

Alzheimer's caregivers frequently feel abandoned by family and friends. You?

I also know that caregivers rarely sit down and think about what they are accomplishing. No wonder their self concept often suffers.

Lets face it. Alzheimer's caregivers is often confusing. You just don't know what to do. Alzheimer's caregiving brings with it an almost perpetual state of uncertainty. These factors and others make it very hard to think -- clearly. I know this, I have been there. You?

I am going to suggest that you, the caregiver, sit down and assess what you are accomplishing. What are you accomplishing?

Start by asking yourself -- If not you, who then? Where would your loved one be without you?

What would the life of the Alzheimer's patient be like without you?

As an Alzheimer's caregiver you really do need to think about your own wonderful, and wondrous, accomplishment.

I can tell you, you are admired and respected. Not only here on the ARR, but by everyone that learns you are an Alzheimer's caregiver.

You have risen to a very high station in life.

If you allow it to happen, you will find your real self through the endeavor of caring. You will also allow others to see your real self.

While Alzheimer's caregiving can be very taxing emotionally, it does bring with it great personal reward.

Rewards to the SELF.

Don't be afraid to allow your-Self to take credit. Go look in the mirror and think about what you are accomplishing.

You should be feeling very good about yourself.

If not you, who then?



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Bob DeMarco is the Founder of the Alzheimer's Reading Room and an Alzheimer's caregiver. The blog contains more than 2,255 articles with more than 272,100 links on the Internet. Bob resides in Delray Beach, FL.

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