Dec 15, 2011

A Sad Story That Could Have Been Prevented

In a way, the family helped create the nightmare they were trying so hard to avoid. It's so sad.

By Carole Larkin
Alzheimer's Reading Room

It's so sad.

A Sad Story That Could Have Been Prevented


Today, as I was getting ready to visit a potential new client,  a gentleman with Parkinson's and Parkinsonian Dementia at home with his wife.

I was called by the son that I had been in contact with for months before, and told not to bother coming over to his mom and dad's house today.





The children had been asking mom for months to contact me for an assessment and to begin the process of  getting her help to take care of her husband.

She physically and mentally couldn't do it anymore, but refused to let anyone help her.

Finally, last week she called me in tears, and asked me to come over.

Today I found out that over the weekend her husband had fallen on her while she was trying to help him in the bathroom. She was bruised, and her husband hit his head.

They went to the hospital where there found his brain hemorrhaging.

He will be released to a nursing home where he will spend the rest of his days, whatever is left to him.

How sad, how unnecessary.

If only the wife had asked for help.If only the children had taken charge and asked for help sooner.

In a way, the family helped create the nightmare they were trying so hard to avoid. It's so sad.

Remember this story and ask for help spouses.

Overrule your parents, kids and ask for the help.

Take action now, ask for forgiveness later.

Your conscience will thank you for it.

Carole Larkin MA,CMC,CAEd,QDCS,EICS,
is a Geriatric Care Manager who specializes in helping families with Alzheimer’s and related dementias issues. She also trains caregivers in home care companies, assisted livings, memory care communities, and nursing homes in dementia specific techniques for best care of dementia sufferers. ThirdAge Services LLC, is located in Dallas, TX.

Original content Carole Larkin, the Alzheimer's Reading Room