Feb 16, 2012

I asked, Do You Know Who Harvey Is?

I knew all along that Dotty believes Harvey is real. However, I thought she believed he was a real parrot, so I could never have expected this answer.

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

Harvey
Last night Dotty seemed a bit disoriented when ice cream time rolled around. She was on the sofa and I asked, do you want some ice cream? She answered yes. But, she didn't move.

I said, okay lets go up front. She responded, up front where? I said, upfront to the kitchen where you usually eat your ice cream.

She looked befuddled.


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Next I said, don't you want to eat your ice cream with Harvey like you usually do?

Dotty looked bewildered, and she still hadn't moved.

Then I said, do you know who Harvey is?

I then received this surprise.

Dotty said,

Yes, that little boy who comes to visit us every day.

Wozo edwards. I never expected that, and I now realize I never before asked Dotty, do you know who Harvey is?

I have to tell you, Dotty said "that little boy who comes to visit us" in the kindest, gentlest way. It really was moving.

As you can see, I am still thinking about this.

I knew all along that Dotty thinks, believes, that Harvey is real. However, I thought she believed he was a real parrot, not a real little boy.

This does help explain why Dotty remains engaged with the parrot each day.

Dotty also tells Harvey he is her best friend, and that she loves him.

Good enough for me.



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Bob DeMarco is the Founder of the Alzheimer's Reading Room and an Alzheimer's caregiver. The blog contains more than 3,361 articles with more than 397,100 links on the Internet. Bob lives in Delray Beach, FL.

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