Mar 7, 2012

Hiring caregiver to relieve THE MAIN CAREGIVER

He has had a sharp decline the past 6 months and I am finding it more difficult to bring in new caregivers to sit with him as he has become angry that someone (bad) comes in the house and he tells them to get the h~~~l out of his house.

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Our reader Ginny wrote:

My husband of 56 years was diagnosed 8 years ago and I have run the gamut of the grieving steps several times over. I have accepted the inevitable and with support groups, praying and research, feel fairly confident that I can get Sid and myself through the day relatively unscathed.

He has had a sharp decline the past 6 months and I am finding it more difficult to bring in new caregivers to sit with him as he has become angry that someone (bad) comes in the house and he tells them to get the h~~~l out of his house, I think he equates them with my leaving him as he is very dependent on me. The more experienced caregiver understands this but they haven't been around Sid long enough to know his good side and how to turn around his bad side.

I play flute and am often asked to play in church and at church suppers, and summer band will be starting up in a couple months so, in taking care of my needs, am looking to find the right caregiver who can sit with Sid through the late afternoon, supper, and bedtime without Sid falling apart along with the hired caregiver. I am 76 years old and feel if I give up flute playing now I may not pick it up at a later date.

Having said this, can you give any pointers, observations with Dotty on interviewing and instructing caregivers? I think we all know there are those caregivers who are out there who have the gift of working with dementia patients plus (if one can find and afford them) and the experience. I leave the house in trepidation on what will be his behavior, I can not bring him to these gigs anymore as there is too much confusion or he tired and ready for bed at 6.30 at night.

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