May 13, 2012

Happy Mother's Day, and More There

When Joanne went into Dotty's room she was basically out it. I said rather loudly, Mom, Joanne is here. Dotty's eyes snapped wide open and she started talking to Joanne.

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

Dotty
Happy Mother's Day to all the mother's around the World. A special wish to all of the mother's on this website.

Dotty is still with us this morning. Happy Mother's Day mom.

A special thank you to everyone in the Alzheimer's Reading Room for your kind thoughts, words of encouragement, and prayers.


Dotty is still with us this morning. Dotty did open her eyes and is able to communicate a bit. Joanne is here with us. Thank goodness.

When Joanne arrived last night Dotty had her eyes closed and had not said anything intelligible for several hours.

When Joanne went into Dotty's room she was basically out it. I said rather loudly, Mom, Joanne is here. Dotty's eyes snapped wide open and she started talking to Joanne.

A wonderful moment. I went outside and said out loud, thank God.

Right now I am thinking about many people, but two are in the front of my mind. Judy Berry and Max Wallack.

Judy Berry is the founder of the Dementia Care Foundation and Lakeview Ranch. Right before I read about Judy and her kind wonderful works I had finally made it on to the path to Joy. I had learned over and over that Dotty was capable of more. This "more" is what propelled me along as an Alzheimer's caregiver. But, at the time I was reluctant to write about our life because after all I was a one man band. After learning about Judy and what she was accomplishing, I had no doubt that when it comes to dementia patients, there is more.

Later on, Max Wallack wrote an article, "I Remember Better When I Paint". Max wrote,

Many families have negative attitudes, feeling that the person is “no longer there”. It is important to realize that the person is always there. We need to help the Alzheimer’s person find things the person will enjoy, and they will become “more there.”

Max was thirteen years old when he wrote that article.

After reading that article instead of saying there is more than you can imagine, I started saying there is more there. Might sound like a subtle difference, but it was much more than that for me. It propelled me along in my belief that dementia patients are capable -- more there.

If you have any doubt that there is more there, I suggest you read this article by Judy Berry, I Am Still Here.

I remember thinking at the time, I won't forget this article.

From Mother's Day, 2011. Dotty also talks and sings with Harvey in the second half of the video.







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Bob DeMarco is the Founder of the Alzheimer's Reading Room and an Alzheimer's caregiver. The blog contains more than 3,511 articles with more than 297,100 links on the Internet. Bob lives in Delray Beach, FL.

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