Aug 8, 2012

Alzheimer's Caregiver Which Path Should You Take?

I didn't know it at the time, but there comes a time when you get to choose which path you want to be on. A new and different path should you choose to take it.

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room


Alzheimer's Caregiver Which Path Should You Take?
One day way back near the beginning I met two wonderful people in the gym -- by chance.

They listened to me vent about my own crazy, sorry situation, as a newly born Alzheimer's caregiver.

They stood there smiling, shaking their heads up and down like they understood everything I was saying. They acted like they knew everything I was going to say.

When I was done venting, they told me about their own round trip ride with their mother who lived with Alzheimer's. Their own experience. Much of it similar. They remembered what it felt like to be me.

That day I learned one of my most important lessons, I was not alone.


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That night I looked up into the sky and for the first time I imagined that those ever growing number of stars in the sky were Alzheimer's caregiver. Millions of us, everywhere.

This realization, that I was not alone, lifted a thousand pound weight off my back.

It allowed me to start thinking more clearly about developing a plan to take care of my mother.

I already knew from my life prior to caregiving -- in order to succeed you need a vision, a mission, and a plan. I started developing a vision of how I wanted life to be for my mother and I.

I started with these words.

I am not Alone.
I am the One.
I am an ALZHEIMER'S caregiver.

This became my mantra.

Those words empowered me.

I decided I was going to deal with the caregiver burden and control it, instead of allowing it to control me.

I didn't know it at the time, but there comes a time when you get to choose which path you want to be on. A new and different path should you choose to take it.

One big step and you leave the path to burden behind, and step on to the path leading to Joy.




Bob DeMarco is the Founder of the Alzheimer's Reading Room and an Alzheimer's caregiver. The ARR knowledge base contains more than 3,811 articles with more than 312,100 links on the Internet. Bob lives in Delray Beach, FL.

Original content Bob DeMarco, the Alzheimer's Reading Room