Nov 12, 2013

Dementia Care, Beneath The Exterior Lies A Real Human Being

Beneath that supposedly unresponsive exterior lies a real human being, someone who loves and has feelings.

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Dementia Care, Beneath The Exterior Lies A Real Human Being

Our reader Scribe left the following comment under the article Are Alzheimer's Patients Lovable, or Empty Shells of Themselves?:

I think that just as parents love their children no matter how atrocious their behaviour, people see Alzheimer's patients like this, that only a son or daughter, husband or wife could love them.

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And perhaps there is an element of truth in this.

But people who are 'called' to their care, invariably say that beneath that supposedly unresponsive exterior lies a real human being, someone who loves and has feelings, and of course if negative things happen to them, just like us they will get angry.

The fact that my husband can still express anger is a joy to me!
He's in there alright, and he has every right to feel anger, or sadness, happiness, humour, joy - the whole spectrum.

I would give a lot for him to have his normal articulation even it it meant that he would more lucidly express dismay at what has happened to him.

But, yes, so many people think that he will one day be a 'shell' that no longer recognises me.

I think myself that if this happens, it's only his brain that does not recognise me, but his spirit does, and always will.

We are not brains on legs, we are a fully integrated spiritual being with the potential for everlasting life, only some of it being lived in this physical plane.
Your comments, reactions and insights are welcome below.

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