It never stops amazing me how one Alzheimer's care partner can give another Alzheimer's care partner encouragement, energy, and the strength to carry on...
There is no doubt in my mind that support from other Alzheimer's caregivers is like medicine for the brain.
By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room
I once wrote about the woman that came up to me in the gym, and then immediately called her husband over to listen to what I had to say. I talked nonstop for 20 minutes. Venting. It just poured out of me. They looked at me, right in the eyes, smiling, nodding affirmatively, as I went on and on.
When I stopped, they shared their own Alzheimer's care experience with me. A similar experience. They gave me the smiles and encouragement. They answered my questions.
But mostly, they listened.
It took a few hours. But then suddenly, I felt like an enormous weight had been lifted off my shoulders. The support medicine was taking effect.
This was one of several quick injections of support, support medicine, that started me on my way.
This was truly the day(s) when I started to become the most effective Alzheimer's caregiver I could be.
I often wonder what it would have been like if they hadn't stopped what they were doing, listened and encouraged me for 45 minutes.
It didn't end there.
The first time I wrote here on the Alzheimer's Reading Room about my mother being sick, I was shocked and surprised when I received 122 private emails.
Emails offering prayers and support.
The ARR continued to grow over time. When my mother was dying we received over 2,100 comments and more than 1,000 emails of encouragement and support.
For me it was like receiving Manna from Heaven.
Every time the suupport medicine kicked in, I was a different person. I didn't have my tail between my legs, I was ready to deal with the situation. I really felt the energy.
I feel certain the prayers made a difference in our lives.
It never stops amazing me how one Alzheimer's caregiver can give another Alzheimer's caregiver encouragement, energy, and the strength to carry on.
I believe that there is no substitute for the love and care of an Alzheimer's caregiver.
I also learned over time that there is no substitute for the support of a fellow Alzheimer's caregiver.
Someone who understands how you might be feeling. Someone who can help you learn and understand you are not alone.
And someone, who can provide you with the strength to carry on.
For me the Alzheimer's Reading Room was the largest support group in the World. It is the largest blog of its kind.
I strongly recommend that you find a support group near you.
If you can't get out, find a good place online.
Or, join us here. We understand. We know how you might be feeling.
When you accept support you are never alone.
If you have not yet done so, you might want to consider reading and sharing the articles listed below.
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- How the Loss of Memory Works in Alzheimer’s Disease, and How Understanding This Could Help You
- Learning How to Communicate with Someone Living with Alzheimer's Disease
- Alzheimer's World -- Trying to Reconnect with Someone Suffering from Alzheimer's Disease
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Bob DeMarco is the Founder of the Alzheimer's Reading Room (ARR). Bob is a recognized expert, writer, speaker, and influencer in the Alzheimer's and Dementia Community worldwide. The ARR Knowledge Base contains more than 4,600 articles. Bob lives in Delray Beach, FL.
Original content Bob DeMarco, the Alzheimer's Reading Room