Jan 31, 2014

She Taught Me One of the Greatest Caregivers Lessons of Them All

Persons living with Alzheimer's or a related dementia are capable of more than we can imagine.

My mother who lived with Alzheimer's taught me over and over that persons living with dementia are capable of more than we can imagine.

Dotty, 2005
88 years old
Dotty, 2011
93 years old
No matter how many times it happened - more than I could imagine - it seemed I was learning this lesson for the first time every time it happened

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Bob DeMarco
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This lesson also taught me how constrained we, the care partners, are by our own brains.

Because of the stigma attached to Alzheimer's, and because Alzheimer's at the care level is so hard to understand, it seems our brain always want to give up.

Our brains just won't let us imagine all the wonderful things that those living with dementia can do. We tend to focus on the things they can't do, mostly remember the right now, and the recent past.

I'm bringing up a video I made in 2011 of Dotty and Harvey. Believe it or not, Dotty had scored a 14 on the MMSE in 2009. She was already well into the moderate to severe stage of Alzheimer's. Harvey by the way came on the scene in late 2009.

I hope you will take the time to watch and listen closely. My mother was 93 years old at the time. And it was seven years after a diagnosis of Alzheimer's.

To those of you who met Dotty here on the Alzheimer's Reading Room, you might find this moving.

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Bob DeMarco
Bob DeMarco  is the Founder of the Alzheimer's Reading Room (ARR). Bob is a recognized expert, writer, speaker, and influencer in the Alzheimer's and Dementia Community worldwide. The ARR Knowledge Base contains more than 4,600 articles. Bob lives in Delray Beach, FL.
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