May 12, 2014

Reader Seeks Alzheimer's Care Advice and Insight

The most difficult part comes when at the end of a visit, she insists that she needs to leave to go home and can't understand why we don't take her with us.

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Our reader nJed posted a comment under the article, How to Listen to an Alzheimer's Patient.

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Can you offer any advice to Jed and his family?

Here is Jed's comment and question.
My mom has been struggling with dementia for a few years and we recently resorted to a nursing home.

When we go to visit sometimes she recognizes us as her children, other times we are her brother/sisters or even her fiancé.

Visits usually go well with her often asking about her brother/sisters/parents (all of whom who have been deceased for years).

We just go with her comments - not the least of which is a constant desire to "go home" to her mother and father.

With reassurance she is usually redirected.

However the most difficult part comes when at the end of a visit, she insists that she needs to leave to go home and can't understand why we don't take her with us.

We will try saying that we are going to work, or going out of town, or otherwise not heading "home" right now. The staff at the nursing home is pretty good about stepping in and helping at this point, but I'm looking for any suggestions on making the end of visits less stressful for her, she is usually in tears or close to it...
PS: Thanks for this forum!!
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