Dec 7, 2014

The Whisper and Alzheimer's Moment in Time

As she walked up to me she was smiling. I put out my hand and she took it. I then whispered in her ear - I see you.

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

The Whisper
I see you
I know you're in there
I'm here with you

The Whisper and Alzheimer's Moment in Time
Dotty 2005, 89 years old

Bob DeMarco

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I took the picture above of my mother in early 2005. This was just a few months before May 7, 2005 when I had my great Alzheimer's caregiver epiphany.

Something Had to Change


That Something Was Me.

I did.

Here is a picture of my mother on June 29, 2011 on her 95th birthday.

Dotty - Alzheimer's Reading Room
Dotty 2011,  95 years old

Interesting, wouldn't you say?

In 2010, I was in the neurologists office and a woman I had never seen before walked up to me. It was clear that she was a dementia patient.

As she neared me she smiled. I put my hand out and she took it. I then whispered in her ear

I See You.

Her husband came into the room and he was clearly freaked out. I suppose he thought she was doing something wrong, or maybe he thought I was doing something wrong.

He was wrong on both counts.

I looked at him and said, it is all good. He looked confused.

At that point I collected up my mother and we left.

That episode was the catalyst for the poem - the Whisper.

Think about it.

Your thoughts and comment?

And Change It Did ...

  1. Something Had to Change
  2. Communicating in Alzheimer's World
  3. Alzheimer's Communication -- Touching Foreheads and Kindness
  4. 10 Steps on the Road to Joyful Caregiving
  5. Rewiring My Brain and Stepping into Alzheimer's World

Bob DeMarco
Bob DeMarco  is the Founder of the Alzheimer's Reading Room (ARR). Bob is a recognized expert, writer, speaker, and influencer in the Alzheimer's and Dementia Community worldwide.
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