If a person living with Alzheimer's or dementia does the same thing over and over, isn't it normal? It is normal for them right?
Complain a lot? About the same old things over and over? Do you ever get tired of listening to yourself? I did.
If a person living with Alzheimer's or dementia does the same thing over and over, isn't it normal? It is normal for them right? Did they do it before they were diagnosed? No?
Then you should be able to conclude that the problem is being caused by Alzheimer's. Yes or no?
Aha. So the behaviors are not really being done intentionally. They are being caused by illness - brain illness.
Would you get angry with a person living with cancer if they couldn't do certain things because of their illness? Probably not, you would probably feel compassion. Compassion is a nice word, Alzheimer's is nasty mean word.
Compassion can be defines as - sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others. Sympathetic another nice word.
Sympathetic can be defines as - feeling, showing, or expressing sympathy; or, pleasant or agreeable, in particular.
Compassionate, caring, concerned, empathetic, understanding, sensitive, consoling, comforting, supportive, encouraging; considerate, kind, tenderhearted.
Take a good look at those words. Do they describe the way you think and feel while caring for someone living with dementia?
Maybe, maybe not. It took me several years to get there. I had to practice every day.
By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room
Here is a tip. When a person living with dementia is mean, ask yourself
If they start doing something over and over ask yourself
What time is it?
If is the same time every day you need to make sure you are doing something at that exact time of day or night. Try ice cream. I'm serious. My mother would go bonkers every night at 9:37 PM plus or minus a few minutes. I mean every night.
What did I do? About 9:15 I would get her up, guide her to the bathroom, help her get her pajamas on, and then take her to the kitchen table, sit her down, and serve up some ice cream. Guess what" She stopped driving me nutty at 9:37 PM. Translation: I stopped pulling my hair out, and stopped feeling crazy at that time.
Here are some articles that could be of help. You might be able to apply the solutions to other problems that you are having.
1. Our Refrigerator Wouldn't Stop Crying
You might find the title of this article a bit on the wild side. Well, my mother was making the refrigerator cry all the time. And, this was driving me crazy. I finally figured out what to do. Took maybe 2 years. It will take you a few minutes to read the article.
2. 10 Solutions to the Problems You Face Each Day
This is actually a list of articles. Take your time and look down the page. We just might have the answer and solution you have been searching for for years. Took me years sometimes to figure it out. I would strongly suggest you share this page in support groups, etc.
3. 10 Things a Person Living with Dementia Would Tell You If They Could
These ten communications tips might help Alzheimer's caregivers improve their daily life and outlook.
4. How the Invention of Alzheimer's World Changed My Life
Her brain was sick -- broken so to speak. So I never had a problem understanding why she was being so difficult and challenging. In spite of knowing and understanding this as clear and clear can be, it was still driving me crazy.
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