Persons caring for someone living with Alzheimer's or dementia don't give themselves enough credit.
Let me make this simple, you are accomplishing more with your life than most people could ever imagine.
How meaningful is your life? This is a question that everyone should ask themselves.
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It is my belief that everyone, whether they know it or not, is searching for meaning in their life.
And now I'll ask this, what could bring greater meaning to your life than caring for someone that needs you so much? Caring for a person who is so fragile that they can no longer operate on their own, or even be left alone for ever a few minutes.
Those of us who are caring for someone living with dementia are often accomplishing more than we can imagine. Sadly, most of us do not take the time to both accept and contemplate our own wonderful accomplishment.
Others however do understand the magnitude of our accomplishment. I have been told over and over - You are a good son. I have been told over and over - You are a Saint. I have been told - I'm going to Heaven.
It took me a while to understand my own accomplishment. I now believe I accomplished more with my life than most people can imagine.
It is really simple - I cared. Can everyone say that?
There were a lot of people around me who could have cared - they didn't. But yes, there were those around me who did care. God bless them.
I don't need to know you, the caregiver, to admire and respect you. I know what its like to be you - I was you.
I understand what you are accomplishing with your life. Why not accept it?
If you are having any doubts then I want to leave you with this thought.
Think about it. Your loved one cannot stand to be without you. If you get out of sight, they call out your name. They follow you around. If you go out or away from them they ask over and over - where are you, when are you coming back.
They Love Us More
They need you.
And even if they don't say it, they show it. Actions speak louder than words.
If you are feeling sad or lonely. If you are feeling abandoned or feeling heartbreak, why not allow yourself to accept the wonder of your own accomplishment?
I believe each caregiver operates at a very high station in life.
Can everyone say that?
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Bob DeMarco is the Founder of the Alzheimer's Reading Room (ARR).
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