A caregiver is a person who gives help, care and protection to someone who is sick or in need.
By Karen Brenner
In the case of Alzheimer's care the caring soon becomes a 24 hour a day, seven day a week job. Some caregivers feel underappreciated, and some feel like they have been abandoned by family and friends.
The poem below was written by our expert Karen Brenner.
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A CAREGIVER’S VALENTINE
We were impossibly young and so beautiful
When we met and fell in love.
You were the cool guy from the big city,
I was the shy small town girl.
I bring you photographs of those days long ago.
You look at me and smile and ask me who those people are.
I take your hand.
It is warm and strong in mine.
You don’t remember but you know that we belong together.
I tell you the stories of those two young people.
You listen intently and study their faces.
And look into my face with wonder in your eyes.
I have come to understand that it doesn’t matter
that you no longer remember who we were then.
It only matters that we can sit and hold hands
While I tell you stories of those two young lovers:
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9 Things I Learned on the Path to Joyful Caregiving
Alzheimer's Care, Life, Burden, Happiness, Joy
Empathy, Compassion and Joy in Alzheimer's Care
The Best Way to Find Solutions to the Problems that Caregivers Face Each Day
Tom and Karen Brenner are Montessori Gerontologists, researchers, consultants, trainers and writers dedicated to working for culture change in the field of aging. They are authors of You Say Goodbye and We Say Hello: The Montessori Method for Positive Dementia Care. This book earned the Alzheimer's Reading Room seal of approval.
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*** Empathy the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
*** Compassion a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate their suffering.
*** Purpose the reason for which something is done or for which something exists. Having as one's intention or objective.
*** Emotional super glue a bond that holds two people together and rises to a level that is so powerful, so all encompassing, that it can only be described in this way - you are bonded together by emotional super glue.