Showing posts with label assisted living. Show all posts
Showing posts with label assisted living. Show all posts

Mar 22, 2017

Are You Trying To Connect with a Person Living with Dementia

The first 18 months of caring for my mother, Dotty, were very difficult. I usually use the words burden and heartbreak to describe that period in our lives.

You have to be actively involved with people living with Alzheimer's in everything they do.

I finally concluded that in order to communicate with my mother I had to change. I had to develop a new set of communication skills in order to deal with her new reality.

This simple realization lead me to the creation of what I now call Alzheimer's World.

Apr 21, 2016

A Farewell to Alzheimer’s Disease

Written at the bedside of a dying military hero, father, loving husband and Alzheimer’s patient.

The day is almost here, but not without a fight.

It’s been about ten years since the repetitive questions started coming from my father a brilliant, confident, strong, larger than life retired military officer with a dry sense of humor and a twinkle in his eye.

Feb 24, 2015

6 Tips For Men – An Alzheimer's Support Group for Men

I answered question like this one: When is it time for the wives to go to an assisted living, memory care or nursing home?

When is it time for the wives to go to an assisted living, memory care or nursing home?

Two weeks ago I spoke at a men’s only Alzheimer’s and related dementia support group.

Of the 18 men there, only one was not a spouse of a woman with Alzheimer’s. He was a son with a father who had a dementia. All men were in their 70’s and 80’s.

My topic was

“When is it time?”

Oct 16, 2014

Celebrate Every Day - It's the Little Things That Count

Daily moments of success are different for everyone. One person with dementia may find success when she puts together a puzzle with ease. Another may feel successful if he’s able to dress himself without any help.

By +Rachael Wonderlin 
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“It’s the little things in life.”


I've heard people say this before, but I don’t think I ever truly understood it until I worked in long-term dementia care.

For people with dementia, it really is about the “little things” that make each day better. When you are memory-impaired, small moments throughout the day are more important than a big event every once in a while.

Jun 19, 2013

Storytelling Helps Change Perception of Dementia Patients

This could be a good way to help doctors feel more empathy for patients and caregivers living with Alzheimer's and dementia. It might also overcome the common misconception that dementia patients are hard to work with.

Storytelling can help us to better understand and care for dementia patients.

Treating patients with dementia can be viewed as a difficult task for doctors, but Penn State College of Medicine researchers say that storytelling may be one way to improve medical students' perceptions of people affected by the condition.

May 11, 2013

The Goldilocks Syndrome and Finding a Good Care Facility

When a choice is made hastily or without a realistic analysis of a parent’s needs, families may wind up moving a mother or father through a series of facilities, impacting his or her emotional and physical well-being due to what’s known as relocation stress.

By Bob DeMarco
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I just finished reading an interesting article on Forbes that was written by +Sherri Snelling. The story describes in part the trials and tribulations of former +Good Morning America host Joan Lunden and the search for a suitable living facility for her mother, Gladyce, who lived with dementia.

More and more people are learning that is not an easy task, and if all you do is go "how nice it looks", you might end up with an even bigger problem than you had when you started.

Obviously, it is only human to judge a place by how it looks. How many times have I heard, I found a nice place for my mother to live; and then learned, it looks nice and very little due diligence was done to check out the place, its track record, and its ability to deliver the kind of care that is necessary.

I think this saying must apply when looking for, and seeking, a good place to live for a person that is living with Alzheimer's.

You Can't Judge a Book by It's Cover

Aug 10, 2012

Geriatric Care Managers: Could One Help You?

A geriatric care manager is a specialist who helps families who are caring for love ones. They are trained and experienced in any of several fields related to Alzheimer's and related dementia care.

Carole Larkin Geriatric Care Manager
Carole Larkin
I recently had the opportunity to interview a highly qualified geriatric care manager - Carole Larkin, MA, CMC, CAEd, DCP, QDCS, EICS.

She owns Third Age Services LLC in Dallas.

Carole has a Master of Applied Gerontology degree with a specialty in Aging Services from the University of North Texas.

She is a certified specialist in "Best Care" practices by both the Alzheimer's Foundation of America and the National Council of Certified Dementia Practitioners, and she has worked for the Alzheimer's Association.

Dec 17, 2011

The Accidental Caregiver

You don’t want to be an Accidental Caregiver.

By Cindy Ward

What IS an accidental caregiver anyway? And what does “Accidental” have to do with caregiving? The purpose of these suggestions is to provide a few pointers to help caregivers who find themselves taking care of a loved one almost by accident.

Allow me to be clear: I am not a doctor; I am not a nurse; I am not a social worker; I have never played any of those on TV.

The advice you will receive comes from my experiences in that oldest of learning institutions, the School of Hard Knocks.

Oct 25, 2011

The 2011 MetLife Market Survey of Nursing Home, Assisted Living, Adult Day Services, and Home Care Costs

Nursing Home, Assisted Living and Adult Day Services All Increased 4.4% or More. The annual survey provides national, statewide, and area-specific costs for facilities offering care.

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Key Findings
  • The national average daily rate for a private room in a nursing home rose 4.4% from $229 in 2010 to $239 in 2011.
  • The national average monthly base rate in an assisted living community rose 5.6% from $3,293 in 2010 to $3,477 in 2011.
  • The national average daily rate for adult day services rose 4.5% from $67 in 2010 to $70 in 2011.
  • The national average hourly rates for home health aides ($21) and homemakers ($19) were unchanged from 2010.

Sep 26, 2011

A Caregiver’s Story About a Husband’s Room and a Place That Provides Peace

This room did not happen overnight. It took me a long time to begin to transform what was a bare and institutional feeling space into what it is today.

By Mary Gazetas

A Caregiver’s Story About a Husband’s Room and a Place That Provides PeaceWhat does it feel like when I walk into my husband’s room in a residence where he has been living now for over two years?

Believe it or not it feels okay as I cross the threshold into Aristides’ Alzheimer’s world. It’s like entering a place that is safe, a room that is now his home, and mine too.

May 31, 2011

Finding Love at the Assisted Living Center

While my mother lived at the Alzheimer’s wing of the assisted living facility, she fell in love with one of the residents...

By Celia Pomerantz
Excerpt from Alzheimer's: A Mother Daughter Journey

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She didn’t know his name. He didn’t know hers, but they held hands during the day and spooned in bed at night.

Jan 2, 2011

Looking for an Assisted Living or Nursing Home for your Loved One Buyer Beware!!!

In 143 cases over the past three years, seniors were victimized after companies placed them in adult family homes, or other long-term- care facilities, that had a record of serious violations, a Times analysis of Department of Social and Health Services documents reveals.

By Carole B. Larkin
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Jul 5, 2010

Jan's Story: A Love Lost to Alzheimer's (Video)

Finally, when her anger and confusion were slipping out of our control, I moved her into an assisted-living facility, where on each painful visit I see the changes as she disappears a little more...

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A friend calls it grieving, like saying goodbye by going to the same funeral over and over again.

"It's really challenging to grieve someone that's sitting right in front of you," said Kallmyer. "It's really challenging to grieve someone that you've just helped take a bath and get them dressed."

"Because it's such a long process and a long road that a family travels down together, it changes family dynamics," said Pring. "And it takes away all our preconceived notions about how families should look and how they should function."

"I know that he will always be in my life," Jan said.

Mar 28, 2010

Alzheimer's Care Facility -- Not In My Backyard

When a released sex offender plans to move in next door, or a drug-treatment center is scoping sites for a new halfway house, a neighborhood's red flags invariably follow.

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In the face of overwhelming opposition from residents in an upscale community called Stonemill Farms in eastern Woodbury, plans for a 45-unit assisted-living facility for people with Alzheimer's disease and other forms of dementia have been put on hold.

Mar 14, 2010

Alzheimer's Disease Nobody Wants Our Dad

Three Daughters Battle Alzheimer's and the Healthcare System

By Bob DeMarco
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Angil Tarach-Ritchey wrote earlier about Living Alone with Dementia. She wonders who is going to take care of all the people suffering from Alzheimer's and dementia that don't have anyone. Or who have uncaring children.

Alzheimer's Disease Nobody Wants Our Dad
Jennifer Petersen, joined by other family members, sits with photographs of her parents in happier times. Richard Petersen, her father, has Alzheimer’s and is in detention with pneumonia.

This story is about three daughters who care -- Jennifer and Jodi Petersen, and Kristin Schmidt.

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