Jan 7, 2015

Walmart and this Alzheimer's Caregiver

I learned in my role as an Alzheimer's caregiver that exercise, bright light, socialization, and simple tasks that allow my mother to use her brain have a positive effect on her quality of life and behavior

Bob DeMarco | Alzheimer's Reading Room
Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

My name is Bob DeMarco, I am an Alzheimer's caregiver. My mother Dorothy, now 94 years old, suffers from Alzheimer's disease.

I am always searching for new ways to keep my mother active and attached to real world.

About a year ago, I came up with a new idea and decided to give it a try.

I took my mother to Super Walmart for an outing. If you have a super Walmart near you, you already know the parking lot is usually jammed.

When we arrive at Walmart, I look around for a parking space. We do not use the handicapped spot. Reason? Exercise (mission accomplished).

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We park, and I walk my mother up to the entrance to the store. Next, I get her into one of those electric shopping carts that allow you to drive around the store. This forces my mother to use her brain (mission accomplished).

When I take her into Walmart we drive around through all the departments. This allows my mother to use her brain for an extended period of time, and to be exposed to the bright lighting (mission accomplished).

My mother usually gets nervous when she is around large groups of people. The experience in Walmart exposes her to lots of people, and sometimes when she is stopped people actually say 'hi' or start talking to her (mission accomplished). Down here in Florida we get lots of smiles as we navigate around the store. When my mother smiles back (mission accomplished).

The trip to Walmart satisfies a need to keep my mother in and attached to the outside world. (mission accomplished).

If I let my mother sit around (actually lay around at home), she often falls into a dark mood. Sometimes she will just stop talking, or worse utter words like " I would be better off dead", or, "I am living on overtime".

I noticed years ago, when I take her out into the world her behavior improves, she starts smiling, and often starts interacting with others (this really makes me feel good--mission accomplished).

To be honest, we both benefit from the trip to Walmart.

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My mother gets out, gets some exercise, gets exposed to bright light: while riding in the car, walking up to the store, and in the store. She gets to see people and do one one of her favorite things--shop. She likes the cloths section almost as much as she likes grabbing a box of Cheez-it off the shelf.

For me? I get out in the world and stay attached to other human beings. This beats staying at home day after day--all alone.

The trip to Walmart is like a respite to me. Even though I am a man, I can now tell you the price of everything we buy. I can tell you we save lots of bucks while shopping in Walmart--another benefit.

We now go to super Walmart weekly.

My advice to you? Get out in the real world and smell the Cheez-it(s).

We are finally getting a bigger Walmart right here in Delray Beach. This means more frequent trips (outtings).

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Bob DeMarco is the Founder of the Alzheimer's Reading Room (ARR).

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"Alzheimer’s Reading Room is an invaluable resource for caregivers looking to gain advice from an expert caregiver. 
Bob was able to make the best of a terrible situation with his mother dealing with Alzheimer’s, and he is continuing to help out other caregivers to this day so that they can take real, effective advice and make their situation better for their loved ones. 
He is also a big advocate for finding effective medicine and solutions to help treatments for this devastating disease. He is very knowledgeable on both the appropriate treatments through medicine and the appropriate approach from an emotional standpoint. 
The number of people that he has helped deal with Alzheimer’s is exponential."
Chirag Patel, MediciGroup Inc. (a BioClinica Company)