Mar 22, 2012

The Key for Me is to NEVER Ask a Yes or No Question

Claudia provides some excellent insight and examples on how to communicate with Alzheimer's patients that frequently say, No.

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The Key for Me is to NEVER Ask a Yes or No Question
Here is some excellent insight from our reader Claudia.

This originally appeared as a comment under the article, Why Do the Deeply Forgetful Say No So Often.

"After you shower, we'll do (your favorite thing)"...

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The key for me is to NEVER ask a yes or no question, such as "Do you want to eat lunch now?"

I will either say "Let's have some lunch" or "I thought we should eat" or something along those lines.

If they think they are joining you in something that YOU want to do, they are much more agreeable.

If you put it back on them by asking if they want to, it requires too much thinking and figuring out if they want to do that thing or if they would rather just stay where they are since they are tired anyway.

You can also give "choices" like "Do you want to eat lunch now or in a few minutes?"

If it's something they really don't like to do, such as shower, you just assume matter-of-factly that they will be showering and say things like "Here, this is the washcloth for your shower" or "Here are clean socks for after your shower", etc.

If they say that they aren't showering, repeat what they said back to them "Oh, you aren't showering?" Then they will know that you heard them and you can continue with "After you shower, we'll do (your favorite thing)"...

Thank you Claudia.

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