Jun 18, 2012

Thinking About Dotty These Days

I can tell you this for certain. Alzheimer's didn't get me down, and it didn't change the way I think about Dotty.

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I'm missing Dotty in a very different way these days. I am missing talking to her about politics, life, and current events.

I now realize I couldn't talk about issues and news in detail with Dotty for many years before Dotty Went to Heaven.

I suppose I simply accepted this. Instead I focused on saying and doing thing that would make Dotty smile. That was the goal.

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Now, however, I seem to be thinking more about Dotty before she became deeply forgetful.

For example, the other day I remembered discussing the voting fiasco we had in Palm Beach County Florida during the Bush - Gore presidential election. Some of you might remember the "hanging chad".

As it turned out, the voting ballet was not well thought out, or laid out, here in Palm Beach County. This led many people to believe that they might have inadvertently voted for the wrong candidate.

I asked Dotty. Do you think you voted for the wrong person? She said, probably.

I asked,  what do you think they should do? Why don't they just let everyone vote again, she said. I said, I don't think that is going to happen.

Amazingly, this issue went all the way to the Supreme Court for a decision.

What did Dotty think? She said, they spent more money on lawyers than it would have cost to let everyone vote again. She went on to say, I guess the Supreme Court decided the election.

Dotty had a way of reducing things down to the lowest common denominator.

I also remembered how Dotty was glued to the television during the O.J. Simpson murder trial. She was convinced that O.J. was guilty. The jury brought in a verdict of not guilty.

I asked Dotty, why do you think the jury voted not guilty? She gave the most succinct explanation I ever heard. She said, I think they wore the jury out. By the time it came time to decide they were so tired they couldn't think. So they did the easiest thing they could do so they could finally go home and get back to their families. Dotty was 79 years old.

I also remembered when Dotty chased and threw a rolling pin at my brothers head. That was about 54 years ago. Dotty was young then, only 41. Good thing he dove out of the way. It would have hit him right in the back of his head.

I will admit I am really missing talking to Dotty in a way I could never have expected.

I can tell you this for certain. Alzheimer's didn't get me down, and it didn't change the way I think about Dotty.

I still remember all of Dotty. Every single bit.

Dotty was a real character. I wish all of you knew her way back when. I guarantee you she would have made you laugh, think, and feel.

Just like she is making me laugh, think and feel right now.

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Bob DeMarco is the Founder of the Alzheimer's Reading Room and an Alzheimer's caregiver. The blog contains more than 3,711 articles with more than 302,100 links on the Internet. Bob lives in Delray Beach, FL.

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