Sep 21, 2012

World Alzheimer's Day and Dotty

I still remember Dotty. I think about her all the time.

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

World Alzheimer's Day and Dotty
Dotty went to Heaven 18 weeks ago on May 25, 2012.

I still remember Dotty. I think about her all the time.

I often think of Dotty eating linguine with clams, and white clam sauce. In the last few years she looked so happy, pleased actually while eating. A very good image in my mind.

I often wondered when the day would come when Dotty would no longer be able to twirl the linguine on her fork. It never came.

She did stick her finger in there every once in a while to help out. Sometimes when she put too much linguine on the fork she made a funny face. She seemed to be concentrating very hard to figure out what to do.

When Dotty ate the linguine she really did concentrate. I learned to sit there and watch. At times I was mesmerized.

Dotty chewed the linguine and clams with her mouth closed. All I can say is Dotty really enjoyed her linguine. When I asked how is the linguine she responded, delicious.

I remember.

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It wasn't always that way.

In the beginning watching Dotty eat linguine gave me a stomach ache. I asked how is the linguine, she answered okay. From beginning to end she didn't say a word while we were in the restaurant. It appeared to me that she was miserable.

Here is what Dotty looked like in those days.

World Alzheimer's Day and Dotty

That was back in 2004-2006.

I changed the name of that picture to Dotty Einstein. It remains my favorite picture of Dotty. Go figure right? Most people find that picture disconcerting.

Eventually Dotty and I found our way.

We left the burden behind and turned on to the path of Joy.

Here is Dotty on June 29, 2011, her 95th birthday.

World Alzheimer's Day and Dotty

You decide. Burden or Joy?

Dotty looked better in 2012 then she did in 2004. In the beginning she was scared, confused, worried, and angry.

In the end she seemed comfortable, happy, and more there.

I remember Dotty.

Right now I am trying to learn to live my life one day at a time. The same way Dotty and I lived our life one day at a time.

I'm working on it. One thing I want to do is learn how to live each day to the fullest.

I have a lot of good memories of Dotty. I remember her.

I admit I miss hanging out with Dotty.

Nevertheless, I still have my real life cartoon character in my mind.

I remember Dotty.

Bob DeMarco
Bob DeMarco is the Founder of the Alzheimer's Reading Room and an Alzheimer's caregiver. The ARR knowledge base contains more than 3,811 articles with more than 306,100 links on the Internet. Bob lives in Delray Beach, FL.

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