Aug 6, 2017

Who is the enemy Alzheimer's or Our Loved One?

As caregivers we start out venting, after a while it sounds like we are constantly complaining. Eventually friends and family get tired of listening to us.

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

What happens next? One by one they start to disappear.

They really don't understand what is happening to us. Much of the time they can't see it.

They can talk on the phone and our loved one acts perfectly normal.

Why do we complain so much? When we complain we turn our loved one into the enemy.

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Think about it. All we are doing is saying bad things about them - we do this over and over.

When we do this we turn them into an object. Not a person. an object. This is call objectification.

Objectification is the act of treating a person as an object or a thing.

Over time we turn our loved on into a villain. This is called vilification.

Why don't we realize they everything we are saying is disparaging. Would you like to be disparaged day and night?

Why don't we realize sooner that our words are both rude and hurtful?

When we vilify, we turn the person into a villain as we constantly disparage them without realizing it.

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