May 11, 2014

You Were Always on My Mind

When I woke up this morning you were on my mind.

Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

Dorothy DeMarco
Dotty, March 26, 2012, 95 Years Old.
Alzheimer's Survivor

The instant I woke up this morning a song started playing in my head. Over and over.

The title of this song sums up Mother's Day for me.

The words might be a bit inexact, but the meaning is clear.

You are always on my mind.

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On a day like this, Mother's Day, our brains can fool us. The brain can trick us into thinking the person living with dementia is no longer there. This is far from the truth, and is one of the stigmas attached to persons living with Alzheimer's or a related dementia.

Don't be fooled by the lack of enthusiasm or the inability to say thank you.

Alzheimer's patients are always capable of more than we can imagine with our own brains.

Don't believe me?

I'll challenge you to sit with your loved in a place where you can face them and hold their hand.

Think about a wonderful remembrance of a past Mother's Day.

Ask you mom, or grand mom, do you remember? Slowly describe your own remembrance. Slowly.

Wait for the reaction, and then just go with the flow no matter where it takes you.

You might just go back to a place in time before dementia. If so, the lesson learned will be clear.

You might want to tell us how you feel, or felt, in the comments section below.

Don't afraid to open your mind and heart.

Happy Mother's Day to my sister Joanne.

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