Dec 2, 2015

Caregivers Get to Choose - Happiness or Burden

I have a strong belief. I believe each caregiver of a person living with Alzheimer's or dementia gets to choose what their life is going to like while caring.

Alzheimer's caregivers can make a choice, happiness or burden.

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

What did you Choose?

On the path from burden to happiness you get to make a lot of choices.

Overall the choice revolves around a simple broad parameter -

Are you willing to learn how to understand, cope, and communicate with a person living with Alzheimer's and dementia.

Are you?

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Yesterday in an email conversation with a person I really respect in the Alzheimer's community I wrote:

Some people ask me if I had to do it over with my mom, would I do it.

My answer, yes. The only difference - I would do it better.

My mom, Dotty, went to Heaven on May 25, 2012. Yet here I am still writing for the benefit of Alzheimer's and dementia caregiver community worldwide.

 Dementia Care Dotty and I Lived our Life to the Fullest

Most days start the same way for me. Get coffee, check the Internet to see what is going on the world; and then, decide what I am going to write about or publish in the Alzheimer's Reading Room.

Sometimes I review what I have already written and then decide to try and find a way to make it easier to understand and more effective. Sometimes I have a totally new idea that I have been thinking about and when my brain seems ready - I write.

I also do speaking, training and consulting. Every time I do this I get better and better ideas about how to care for someone living with Alzheimer's. It just seems like I continue to undergo a natural metamorphism of my own thinking and believes.

I also know that each day, on average, 1,275 new Alzheimer's caregivers are born. Many more throughout the world. More or less, they are just like I was on November 17, 2003. You could say, I know how they might be feeling.

This might sound trite by my goal is not only to help them; but also, to lead them down the road. The road from burden to happiness. Or in my case, Joy.

I just redid an article I wrote sometime ago. I added links to take the reader to additional articles I wrote that better explain my thoughts, feelings, and the process of moving from burden to happiness.

I hope you will take the time to read and follow the links. I'm comfortable in the thought that it will improve your efforts while caring.

If you like it, please share it on Facebook and other social media outlets. and, in support groups.

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Publisher Alzheimer's Reading Room
Author Bob DeMarco
December 12, 2015
Title: "Caregivers Get to Choose - Happiness or Burden"

Bob DeMarco is the Founder of the Alzheimer's Reading Room (ARR). Bob is a recognized expert, writer, speaker, and influencer in the Alzheimer's and Dementia Community worldwide. The Alzheimer's Reading Room contains more than 5,000 articles and has been published daily since July, 2009.

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"All of us in the Alzheimer’s community are fortunate that Bob has taken on this important work. At Cure Alzheimer’s Fund, we encourage people to follow the Alzheimer's Reading Room; and, we rely on it ourselves to stay up to date and in touch."

Tim Armour - President, Cure Alzheimer’s Fund

Cope. To face and deal with responsibilities, problems, or difficulties in an effective and calm manner or way.

Caregiver is a person who gives help and protection to someone who is sick or in need.

Empathy the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.