Apr 4, 2017

Can how you think and what you believe affect your Alzheimer's caregiving effort?

I know from experience that if you think positively, you will act positively. If you think negatively, you will act negatively.

I know from experience that if you think positively, you will act positively.
In my travels, I learned that few Alzheimer's caregivers consider the importance of

their brain in order to deal more effectively with a person living with dementia.

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

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I know from experience that if you think positively, you will act positively. If you think negatively, you will act negatively.

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How you act and how you think effects the perception of those around you. In the Alzheimer's caregiver paradigm it only stands to reason that if you think positively, and act positively, the person around you the most will also act positively. Of course, the inverse is also true.

Here are some considerations for "feeding' your brain the right stuff.

1. I am an Alzheimer's Caregiver

How often do you remind yourself of your own wonderful accomplishment? Often, never?

Alzheimer's caregivers operate at a very high station in life. Think about it. We have in our care the life of another human being that over time becomes completely reliant on us. They rely on us to help them live their live.

Each and every day we accomplish more than we could ever have imagined. Don't we?

Could you ever have imagined accomplishing so much with your life? Our accomplishment is wonderful and live fulfilling.

Others look at us and often say: you are a good husband/wife, a good son/daughter. The say to us you are a saint. They sometimes tell us we are going to Heaven.

Look in the mirror and smile. Say,

I am an Alzheimer's caregiver.

Do it right now, and do it every day. Before you know you will rewire your brain and then you can get on with the task at hand.

When it is all said and done you will have accomplished more than you could ever imagine. You will have accomplished more with your life than you ever imagined possible.

2. More There

Persons living with dementia are capable of more than we can imagine. We are often constrained by our own brains. Ironic isn't it?

It is our brain that is holding us back. And, at the same time holding back the person living with dementia.

We often focus on the wrong things. The acts, words, and behaviors that come along with the natural progression of Alzheimer's. These are the givens.

As a result, we sometimes forget that life goes on.

You get to decide

Hello or Goodbye?

I chose Hello. Then I helped my mother Dotty unleash all the beauty and wonder that was still inside her.

Once you choose "more there" you will begin living your life to the fullest.

Go ahead say it,

More There.

Say it over and over each day. Plug into the more. Your brain will follow, and your life might just become full of


3. Hopelessness

Every where I go I meet persons who have been touched by Alzheimer's that are filled with a sense of Hopelessness.

They drank the Koolaid. They bought into the stigma. They are stuck in a very negative place.

There is only one way to overcome this - by opening your heart and opening your brain.

My mother sang, she talked to us via podcasts and on


She delivered the message in a way I could never have done. She showed the world that people living with dementia are sweet, kind, and often fascinating.

My mother helped me to understand that there was

Hope, Joy, and Happiness 

in a world filled with Alzheimer's.

Don't drink the Koolaid. Rewire your brain. Think positively.

Get out of your cave, and get out in the world and start doing. No excuses.

Start living life.

You are what you think and believe.

4. Become a Believer

Are you a believer?

Please take the time to read or reread the articles listed below. These article were written to help you rewire your brain, and to help you overcome the sense of hopelessness that often accompanies Alzheimer's and a related dementia.

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Alzheimer's World and the Power of Positive Reinforcement
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Bob DeMarco is the Founder of the Alzheimer's Reading Room (ARR). Bob is a recognized Influencer, speaker, and expert in the Alzheimer's and Dementia Community Worldwide. The Alzheimer's Reading Knowledge Base contains more than 5,000 articles. Bob lives in Delray Beach, FL.

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*** Empathy the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.

*** Compassion a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate their suffering.

*** Purpose the reason for which something is done or for which something exists. Having as one's intention or objective.

*** Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well being defined by positive emotions ranging from contentment to joy. Happy mental states also reflect judgement by a person about their overall well being.

*** Sadness is a normal human emotion. Sadness is an emotional pain associated with, or characterized by, feelings of disadvantage, loss, despair, grief, helplessness, disappointment and sorrow.

*** Caregiver is a person who gives help and protection to someone who is sick or in need.

*** Emotional super glue a bond that holds two people together and rises to a level that is so powerful, so all encompassing, that it can only be described in this way - you are bonded together by emotional super glue.

*** Trust the firm belief in the reliability and truth of someone. Trustworthy a person you can rely on; a person you have confidence in.

*** Joy is a feeling of great pleasure and happiness. A heightened feeling of happiness.

*** Cope. To face and deal with responsibilities, problems, or difficulties in an effective and calm manner or way.

Coping requires us to make our own conscious effort to solve personal and interpersonal problems. This allows us to minimize stress, reduce conflict, and to better understand our situation.