Apr 30, 2017

Alzheimer's Care, I took care of my mom for 3,112 days

It not unusual for dementia care to last more than eight years.
By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

After reading, 16 Ways to Get a Dementia Patient to Eat More Food, a reader wondered if the author actually took care of someone living with dementia.

I took care of my mom, Dotty, for eight and a half years. I was with her for 3,112 days.

My mom went to Heaven on May 25, 2012. She was right here at home.

I decided to bring up a list of a few articles I wrote as a result of my Alzheimer's care experience with my mom. I hope you find these useful in your own memory care experience.

Emotional super glue is very powerful when channeled in a real and purposeful way in dementia care.

1.  The Effect of Emotional Super Glue in Alzheimer's Care

The person living with Alzheimer's or a related dementia cannot live without you. Without you they become confused, worried, and experience an enormous amount of angst. You are their connection to the world. Without you they become lost.

The importance of face to face communication in dementia care.

2.  Alzheimer's Care, The Importance of Face-to-Face Communication

Does face to face conversation have a positive effect on attitude and behavior among the elderly and persons living with dementia?

Alzheimer's caregiving is an art. Listening is also an art, not a science. This especially true when trying to listen to an Alzheimer's patient.

3.  Caregiving is an Art, Listening is an Art

Two of the biggest problems Alzheimer's and Dementia caregivers face are how to cope and communicate with someone living with dementia.

How to Get Answers To Your Questions About Alzheimer's and Dementia

Always Be Kinder Than You Feel | Alzheimer's Reading Room

4.  She Said, Get Out, I said, I'm Not Going Anywhere

My mother was deeply forgetful and living with Alzheimer's. She did not seem to know or understand that she could no longer live or operate on her own.

5.  4 Lessons I Learned About Alzheimer's Caregiving

I learned that people living with Alzheimer's or a related dementia are not the enemy, they are our loved one's.

6.  How I Learned to Accept Alzheimer's Disease

Once you accept and understand Alzheimer's - the environment changes. Everything slows down. You slow down. Instead of feeling chaos and stress, you start to feel comfortable. Normal actually.

We are often searching for meaning and purpose in our lives.

7.  Alzheimer's Care The Power of Purpose in Our Lives

“There is a difference between success and purposefulness. Success is what happens to you. Purpose is what happens through you. Meaningfulness is what you give away to others.”

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Dementia is a syndrome in which there is deterioration in memory, thinking, behavior and the ability to perform everyday activities.

Dementia causes the loss of cognitive functioning—thinking, remembering, and reasoning. Dementia interferes with a person’s daily life and activities.

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