Sep 5, 2019

The Alzheimer's Caregiver Blame Game

When you blame a person living with dementia for something they did you should try to remember - it is not their fault.


Caregivers often blame dementia patients for things they have no control over.
By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

I was talking to an elderly woman that was having a particularly difficult time dealing with her husband who lives with Alzheimer's disease.

When we started talking before I knew it she was off and running. She talked non-stop for about twenty minutes. She was clearly stressed out. It did not surprise me, I have seen and heard it before.

At the core of what she was saying was a single theme, blame.


Sep 1, 2019

How to Survive a Hurricane with an Alzheimer's Patient

Six of my most important tips for dealing with an Alzheimer's patient during a hurricane.


How to Survive a Hurricane with an Alzheimer's Patient
By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

I took care of my mom, Dotty, for eight and a half years, 3,112 days. My mom lived with Alzheimer's disease.

We survived 2 hurricanes together including monster hurricane Wilma. A category 3 hurricane when it reached our home in Delray Beach, Florida.

Here are 6 of my most important tips for dealing with an Alzheimer's patient during a hurricane.


Learning How to Walk Backwards in Alzheimer's Care

As I learned to walk backwards I felt less anxious, less confused, and less and less anger. As a result, Dotty seem to do the same exact thing.

As I learned to walk backwards I felt less anxious, less confused, and less and less anger. As a result, Dotty seem to do the same exact thing.
By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

My father once told me, "you make your own bed and you sleep in it." This referred to the decisions you make in life, the problems you face in life, and how you deal with the resultant circumstances.

Ever tried to walk a long distance backward without looking over your shoulder? I doubt it.

Go ahead, start walking around you home backwards. No looking over your shoulder, eyes straight ahead, no peeking.

How do you think you will feel? Nervous, anxious, disconcerted?


Aug 27, 2019

3 Ways to Redirect a Dementia Patient and Embrace Reality

Some caregivers find it difficult to redirect Alzheimer's patients - why not try these simple methods?


Some caregivers find it difficult to redirect Alzheimer's patients - why not try these simple methods?

Learning how to redirect an Alzheimer's patient is often difficult. The concept itself is difficult to grasp.


Learning how to embrace the reality of a dementia patient is also difficult.

Learning how to redirect a person living with dementia and how to embrace reality are essential components of effective caregiving.

Learning how to do this takes patience and a little practice.


Aug 14, 2019

The Importance of Touch and Kindness in Dementia Care

One of the biggest challenges Alzheimer's Caregivers face is how to communicate effectively with someone living with Alzheimer's disease. This challenge is particularly difficult when a person living with dementia becomes nasty and mean.


The importance of touch and kindness should never be underestimated in Alzheimers and dementia care.

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

At the beginning, my mother turned meaner than a junkyard dog.

She said mean and nasty things to me every day.

This was new. My mother had never engaged in these behaviors with me before.



Aug 12, 2019

2 Nonverbal Communications Tips for Alzheimer's Caregivers

Are you having difficulty understanding, coping and communicating with a person living with dementia? Try these 2 nonverbal communication tips.


Alzheimer's Reading Room Purple Heart

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

It isn't easy to learn how persons living with Alzheimer's think, feel, and act; and, why they do what they do.



This is understandable. No one taught us how to do it, and we are not prepared in life to deal with behaviors that are caused by brain disorders.

When a person living with dementia changes the way they communicate with us most of us become what can best be called discombobulated.